Do you have the 'perfect' relationship with your significant other (spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, etc.)? If you said yes, you're lying.

When someone tells me their relationship is perfect, I don't believe them. My husband David and I have our differences, we have just learned that I am always right and he's always wrong. (Completely kidding.) There's a lot of good relationship advice that people in relationships don't normally put into words - past the generic stuff like "you have to communicate."

So what's the ONE deep thing everyone should know about being in a relationship?  Here are some of my favorites from a post I saw on Reddit...

  1. You and your significant other are on the same team and if you don't feel like that's true, there's a problem.
  2. Both of you have to make sacrifices, and make them generously.  Don't keep score.
  3. Most of the stress and fights will come from little things, not big, dramatic incidents.
  4. If you don't want your significant other to do things, you can't do them either.
  5. You should still go out of your way to try to impress the other person, just like when you first started dating.
  6. Relationships require daily maintenance.  And if you don't think your relationship does it needs it even WORSE.
  7. Don't torture yourself thinking the grass is greener on the other side.  Even if it doesn't look like it, your friends living the single life aren't as fulfilled as you are at the end of the day.
  8. There's so much more flatulence than you EVER imagined. (Teehee?)

We fight, we argue, we go to separate rooms of the house and cool off. Heck, we may even go to bed angry at each other (even though my Mom told me I should never do this). We wake the next morning and amazingly we still love each other. I personally think it's healthy for a relationship to have disagreements, arguments, fights, whatever you want to call them. As long as they are healthy and not hurtful. No name calling, and most definitely NO HITTING! It seems like after every disagreement we have I'm the one that is apologizing. Of course, as I think back on some of them, he has apologized to me once or twice.

If we have a disagreement and I feel like it's not going anywhere or that I just can't vocalize what I mean because I'm so angry; I go to my computer and I write it out, read it over, save it, come back read it again, change a few things and then print it.  Then I go to bed and decide the next morning whether I want to let him read it or not.

I left him one of those notes this morning. We had a silly disagreement last night that quickly escalated so we went to our separate corners and sulked. I wrote the note and left it on the desk for him this morning. Then before I left for work I sent him a text message. "You frustrate me, you piss me off but I still love you with all my butt!"  He called me on his way to work and said he loved me to.